The world buzzes about goals and visions. Focus. Create a vivid picture of exactly where you want to go. Dream big, then don’t let anything or anyone stop you. The problem, as Daniel Gilbert wrote in Stumbling Upon Happiness, is that we’re horrible at forecasting how we’ll really feel 10 or 20 years from now – once we’ve gotten what we dreamed of. Often, we get there only to say, “That’s not what I thought it would be,” and ask, “What now?” Ambition is good. Blind ambition is not. It blocks out not only distraction, but the many opportunities that might take you off course but that may also lead you in a new direction. Consistent daily action is only a virtue when bundled with a willingness to remain open to the unknown. In this exercise, look at your current quest and ask, “What alternative opportunities, interpretations and paths am I not seeing?” They’re always there, but you’ve got to choose to see them.
(Author: Jonathan Fields)
It is true. I dream it up and reach it, and it turns out not to be what I thought it would be like … I always wanted to get back to Colorado after leaving the internship 11 years ago. I glamorized how it would be and believed it to be better than what I had when I was there – which was a few good friends and best friend from college.
When I got back out here, it was good. New surroundings, new adventures, new love, new friends … and then it wasn’t so new anymore and that faded to questioning everything. I still do.
I came out here for many reasons and the job was just one of them, it did make me appreciate the closeness of my family and wondering where this path will lead. I know there are a number of reasons why I am still here. And where it is I am supposed to go …